Anxiety versus leverage
Sep 13, 2017
What makes you anxious?
Did you worry about losing your job? Did you worry about making the rent payment? Did you worry about your partner leaving?
Anxiety is opposite of happiness. If you worry about keeping it all together, life becomes less enjoyable. Reducing your worries means increasing your happiness.
Here is how: Leverage is the enemy of anxiety. Leverage means choice. Leverage means control. The more leverage you gain, the less anxious you become. Have leverage, be happy.
When you are anxious, check your leverage. Think about ways to gain leverage. How can you create more options for yourself? How can you be the best option for others? How can you get in control? How can you build leverage in the long term?
Worried about losing your job because of an unhappy boss?
Don’t: Work massive overtime trying to impress your boss. Your boss stays in the driver seat and you have built zero leverage.
Do: Gain leverage by creating options. What about improving your technical skills and social network – so that you could quickly get a new job at any time? What about getting a side-hustle so that even losing your job would not make you unemployed? What about reducing expenses and saving enough – so that a few months of unemployment is no big deal?
Worried about paying rent?
Don’t: Borrow money from other people – you would give up even more control.
Do: Get an apartment of half the cost on the other side of the town. Stop fancy. Match expenses to income. What about renting out a room with AirBnB? What about sharing the flat with someone else?
Worried about your partner leaving?
Don’t: Become a servant trying to satisfy the unsatisfiable. Freedom is lost if your well-being is subject to your partner’s approval. Don’t let your partner have all the leverage.
Do: Be the person that is always the best option for your partner. Be honest. Be responsible. Be caring. Be hard-working. Be fit and attractive. The longer the relationship lasts, the more value your partner should get out of it. You have leverage over every other potential partner since you have proven your value. Don’t try to impress. Instead, constantly work on becoming really impressive.
Have leverage, be happy.